I’m here to share with you why you should agender-ise your squad catch ups. It’s a thing. Well it wasn’t a thing, but now it is.
Sisters, time with your sisterhood, your besties, your squad is precious and often too short. These precious moments are often so full of excitement at catching up, workshopping important and less important information and bantering back and forth, that you can leave feeling there was so much more to say. Well I have a plan to help you on that.
Now, “just back the truck up” I hear you say, you want me to what? Yes, I said it, I want you to put an agenda on the table and work through it systematically or erratically, whatever rocks your boat when you next meet up with your sisterhood/squad/friends/besties. You’ll leave with a sense of calm that everyone has put their cards on the table and got their turn to offload/share/bitch/moan/vent/celebrate.
I’m finding the older I get (I still feel 27, but have a few more wrinkles, rolls and kids than I did back then), that time with my friends is sacred and I want to wring the most out of the time I have with them as possible. There is so much that can’t be said via text and short phone calls, so I tend to “save” stuff up, but by the time we catch up, the moment’s been and gone, I’ve workshopped the issue myself or I’ve just plain forgotten.
And then in the space of one week, I was lucky enough to have two girly catch ups booked in and would you believe, both sets of friends put an agenda on the table. At my heart, I’m an organiser, I do it for a living wrangling clients in my day job and make shit happen in my #mumboss biz, so you can imagine I was giddy with delight that agendas had been set. Both were different versions but both have their merits, so it got me thinking that this blog is all about the sisterhood and I should share some life-hacks that I love with you. So here’s how they went:
- Agenda One: “Bring your top 3 to discuss, everything else is a free for all”. This agenda had a fluidness to it, a liberal dose of letting the cards fall where they lay but it set an expectation that you’d get your turn, you have important things to discuss and it will happen, but shit might change and that’s cool.
- Agenda Two: Rough agenda for Thursday: School fair, renovation bitch and moan, husbands, kids, body yarns – what the fuck is happening to us?, building each other up – we are amazing after all and AOB (any other business).
To be fair, Agenda number two lingered on AOB for most of the night as there were some big fat rocks in there to jump over, but we got through the rest in a flash, because we remembered to keep referring back to the agenda. Everyone left feeling lighter than when they walked in, having had the chance to offload.
Now before you get your knickers in a twist with me, thinking I am being some sort of lifestyle expert, I promise, I’m not, I just want to help the sisterhood out with a way to make life simpler, easier, more fun and calming. Who doesn’t need that?
What do you think? Let me know if you use the idea at your next sisterhood catchup. It’s one big karmic cathartic love bomb of an idea. Well I think so anyway 🙂 Happy life-hack.
Mmmmmwah, EJ, the mother of the sisterhood. x0x0